Anal Sex – Everyone’s been talking about it. A lot of men and women have done it with two realisations. They either love it or they hate it. Period.
For most men, anal sex sounds exciting, just the thought of penetrating a tight entry and getting your dick massaged and enveloped by something other than a mouth, a hand or a vagina sounds surreal. In heterosexual couples, the men will want to try anal sex more than the women because it’s a whole new way to explore sex. Whereas the women may not even want to go down that road because they think it’s too invasive or unnatural.
Talking about it openly is always the best approach when it comes to exploring anal sex. Trying it for the first time is always daunting so here are a few tips on how to make it pleasurable for the receiver. After this first time, your partner will want you to do it again and again.
Anal Sex Technique for Pleasurable Results
First of all, you need to understand that inserting an object into one’s anus doesn’t come naturally. You need to relax it fully in order to get it right. If your partner feels at least a little tense, this won’t work nor be pleasurable at all.
Before you insert anything inside, get your partner in a good position: the best position for anal sex is doggy style. So get your partner on their knees, facing away from you, their head close to the mattress and ass in the air. Spread those legs so you can view the little star clearly.
Now to start rimming – GQ Magazine described this part very clearly. There are four pillars of elegant anilingus. First off, you need to tap the “star” or in other words the “spider” gently with your tongue like you’re knocking on the door to go inside; like ringing the door bell. Then you switch between flicking the entry with the tip of your tongue and lapping with the flat of your tongue to get it wet and lathered. And then you can begin to stick your tongue inside ever so gently. You’ll see your partner squirm and then relax as you do so.
Now for the actual insertion. First you just use one finger with of course some water based lube. Wearing a glove will help it slide in smoothly together with some lube. Using lube is always a good idea because it helps the anus stay wet longer and cushions the inside of the rectum as well. Once it’s nice and soaking wet, insert one finger inside slowly. Stroke the knot inside and move your finger tip from side to side slowly. Alternate between your finger and your tongue so it becomes a mix of sensations. Take your time and do it slowly.
As you continue this method, your partner will be more and more relaxed and want more of you. So while you play with the anus, use your other hand to stroke her clit or his shaft to make the sensation even more unbearably arousing. Angle the finger in the backdoor slightly towards the tailbone. In fact, insert another finger inside and stroke with slow movements. As the sensations of pleasure reach higher and higher, your partner will be more and more relaxed and eager for the main event.
Here’s the main event. Slide your fingers out slowly, in the same pace as you were stroking inside the anus and then press the head of your penis against your partner’s anus and let them slide themselves onto you. But make sure it goes in at the same pace as your fingers did. You’ll see that your erect penis will go all the way in up until your testicles smoothly. Now that you’re in, move at a slow pace at first and then increase the speed and alternate between the speeds. Your partner will be moaning with extreme joy and pleasure.
Mix things up occasionally with some dirty talk while you thrust from the back. A little bit of hair pulling can also go a long way. Just make sure your partner is on the same page as you before you do anything of course. Consent and communication is key.