What is Kinky? March 26, 2018 – Posted in: BDSM, News, Sex Advice
What is Kinky?
“Kinkiness” is not as strange a concept as it may sound. Generally speaking, “kinkiness” refers to just how unusual your sexual behavior is. People who consider themselves kinky will generally be somewhere outside the norm, on the edges of sexuality. They go beyond the normal lovemaking between men and women and explore whole worlds of sexual fantasy for everyone to experience and take part in.
In reality, there are far more kinky people out there than you may think. A lot of people have highly kinky thoughts, although they never really act them out. This may be due to shame, embarrassment or simply the fact that they just don’t want to and prefer to live in a fantasy world. However, if you are interested in kinkiness and seeing what it can bring you, read on.
Explore Your Own Kinkiness
You could say that the road to kinkiness is one of the self-discovery. It is very much an inner journey, one that you need to take with a healthy dollop of curiosity and a bit of open-mindedness. After all, you will be finding out about sexual practices that you may never have heard of. There is a whole host of literature out there on the various types of sexual kink and fetish play, so this is just the beginning. Keep your eyes open and have a look at the possibilities.
It is also important to start at your “level”. For example, if you are a little bit kinky but want to up it a few notches, you may want to start discussing fetishes with others online. This can be a great way of finding out how to explore your own desires and feelings and see just what it is that makes you tick. In addition, you can also ask your partner to take part in this journey. It can be a wonderful method of self-discovery for both of you.
Get Out and Explore
If you feel ready, you can maybe get out into the real world and explore kinks and fetishes. This may mean going to different meetup groups and participating in discussions – maybe even going to the events that they host. While it may seem daunting at first, it can at the very least be a wonderful way of finding out more about these particular subcultures. In particular, the BDSM community tends to have meetups in towns and cities across the country. For the most part, you will not be stuck to find one of them.
Or you could just stick to reading and explore your own fantasies. It really is up to you. There is a lot of information around, so you can explore the different types of “kinkiness” and see if there is anything you could apply to yourself. You may very well be surprised: just make sure to communicate this with your partner if you feel there’s something you would like to try out. You never know, you both may end up discovering something you’re very much into!
