Reasons Why You Might Not Make Your Girlfriend Reach Orgasm July 23, 2018 – Posted in: News, Sex Advice

Not being able to make your girlfriend orgasm is probably among your darkest nightmares. You’re certainly panicking and asking yourself what’s wrong with you, but don’t beat yourself up. You’re not the first nor the last to be unable to make your girlfriend climax. It’s as normal as not being able to get an erection when you should and of course, it’s nothing that cannot be solved. Here are some of the most common reasons why that might not happen.

She’s not climaxing because:

 You think a woman reaches orgasm from sex alone

THEY DO NOT! In order for a woman to reach the climax, you need to be aware of the fact that your penis moving inside of her vagina isn’t enough. You must stimulate her clitoris and all of her erogenous zones. Her neck, her ears, breasts, thighs, back – all of these play a crucial role in a woman’s orgasm. For instance, rub her clitoris while having sex. You can also breathe gently in her ear and scratch her back close to her buttocks.

She’s too self-conscious

She might be fully eligible for an orgasm, but her mind keeps on blocking it out. That might happen because of many reasons. It’s something that will solve on its own after you’ll get more comfortable with each other and talk it out. Moreover, there are some women who think having an orgasm is embarrassing, for some reason. Yes, that’s not crazy talk. It can actually happen. Give it time and she’ll feel comfortable enough to tell you what you should do to make her reach the ninth heaven.

You’re not stimulating the G-spot

This is situated on the top wall of her vagina, a few inches from the opening. You can stimulate it with your penis, obviously, but you can also use your fingers to do it. Combine that with oral sex and you’ll see she starts shaking all over. What does that mean? She’s inching towards a cataclysmic orgasm, so don’t stop. You might think she’s in pain or something, but she’s not. She’s just enjoying it to the point of fainting. Do not overlook the G-spot and its power in granting your girl her well-deserved climax.

You finish too quickly

There are various techniques that can be employed in order to last longer in bed. One of them is simply having more sex to practice. Doing it a little slower, too, can work wonders. Don’t just thrust incessantly. Learn to coordinate your movements and also appreciate her body. When you feel like you’re about to come, stop for a few seconds and kiss her and stimulate her erogenous zones, then resume. Your body will eventually get accustomed to this schedule and you’ll last longer, which means the chances of her getting an orgasm will be higher.


The first thing you have to do when you don’t seem to be able to make her orgasm is not freak out. It doesn’t do you any good. You’re not the problem, and neither is she. You just need to practice more and get a good understanding of how her body works.  With time and a lot of communication, she will be having orgasms every time you have sex.

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