How Many Times a Week Should You Have Sex? November 6, 2017 – Posted in: News, Sex Advice

When it comes to sex, every couple has its style, its “right time” and its duration. There are many factors to discuss when it comes to this part of our intimate life. However, many of us are still wondering how many times a week should we have sex?

Should we have sex every day of the week? Are three times okay? Maybe two will be sufficient? Some couples do it once a month or none at all. We are led to believe the more times we have sex, the better, but is that the truth? Let’s find out!

Blame It on the Internet

There was a time when sexy magazines and porn tapes were not that easy to get, especially if you were a teenager in the seventies or eighties. Now that the Internet grants you access to free porn sites, many people (including teenagers) think that a healthy intimate life means sex every day.

It might be true, but pornography and over sexualising almost everything (sex does sell) distorted our view of our sexual needs. People think that pornography is what sex really is. The reality is that porn has nothing to do with real sex with a real partner.

So, How Many Times a Week Should We Have Sex?

It really depends on the couple and their day to day life. A good example is this: you are coming home from a long, hard day of work and your partner wants some action, but you will probably refuse him/her. The only type of action you will want is near a fridge, in a bathtub, and in bed, as in sleeping.

A book called “365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy” presented a year in which a long-term couple agreed to have sex every day. After the year had ended, the coupled stated they were happier, less stressed and less angry. We think that it has to do with the fact that both of them got really close every day.

However, some couples end up having a bad time when they try to double the amount of sex they are having each month. For example: if a couple is satisfied with having sex four times per month, they are happy for a reason. Doing more or less sex might make them unhappy.

Of course, there is the other side of the spectrum. In 2013, a book called “The Normal Bar” supported the fact that the more sex people have, the happier they will be. The book was written by three well-respected U.S. scholars plus sexologist Pepper Schwartz.

The finding is based on thousands of surveys. The writers concluded that three to four times a week is the perfect amount to achieve happiness for any couple.

Of course, some couples can afford of having sex only once a week, and they do just fine. Some of them would prefer to double that amount, but they have no time. There are even couples who have no sex at all, after a certain age, because of various reasons.


As you can see, there is no short, correct answer. The answer to this question depends on you, your partner and your lifestyle.

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