7 BDSM Moves That Beginners Can Try Out June 18, 2018 – Posted in: BDSM, Sex Advice

You are probably reading this now because you’re finally ready to make your way into the world of BDSM. You’re also probably excited to move on to your first BDSM session, but perhaps, you just aren’t sure about how you should go about it. Now, BDSM is usually portrayed in mainstream media as something that is too extreme or hardcore. But in reality, you don’t have to go all-out in order to incorporate BDSM into your sex life. You can start slowly with these beginner moves.

Biting

Biting is an easy way to start with BDSM, but it is important that you first talk to your partner about it – especially with regard to the marks. Some people are okay with bite marks, but some are just not into it. So see to that that you know about your partner’s preference before you start biting.

Light Spanking

Spanking is one of the most common fantasies that people have, and going at it lightly at first is a great idea. Though of course, you can always choose to intensify it later on. You can start with using hands to spank, and then gradually incorporate sex toys as you become more accustomed to it.

Derogatory Language

Using derogatory and demeaning language is also a good way to start with BDSM, especially if you are not yet ready for the physical stuff. Words like “whore,” “slut,” “bitch,” and “wimp” are some that you can use. However, discuss this with your partner first because name-calling can be a turn off for some people.

Blindfolding

Blindfolding someone is not just a power play; it’s also a great way to amplify the sensations that the blindfolded person is feeling. Essentially, one person is restrained lightly and blindfolded, while the other person (not blindfolded) has control over everything. The one who is not blindfolded can use various objects to introduce different sensations to the blindfolded person. This sexual act is nice because the blindfolded person is obliged to surrender to the non-blindfolded person.

Tying With A Cloth

A good way to start with bondage is to use cloths, such as scarves or huge handkerchiefs. They are soft, and they won’t really scrape someone’s skin or create some serious damage – unlike handcuffs, wires, and ropes. If you decide to do this, make sure that two fingers can fit between the cloth and the skin in order to allow blood to flow through the veins.

Candle Wax

Dripping candle wax on someone’s skin may seem too painful or scary, but it really isn’t! The pain is bearable, and it won’t actually burn the skin. However, before you do this, make sure that you do some research first. Some types of candles burn hotter than the other types, and you wouldn’t want to use those.

Pervertables

Pervertables are mundane objects that you can use as sex toys. Some examples are phallic-shaped stuff, such as brushes or spoons with cylindrical handles. You can also use objects that can be used for spanking and for restraint, such as rulers and belts.

The key to making BDSM fun for both you and your partner is communication. Talk about your preferences, and make sure that you both know what the other is willing to do.

 

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