What to Do with a High Libido January 8, 2018 – Posted in: Adult Industry News, LGBTQ
We’re kidding (obviously, you will want to and can have sex with a high libido). The most obvious concern here is that a person with a high libido may not be getting the level of sex they need. In a relationship where both people tend to have rather high sex drives, this can work out wonderfully well. Of course, it does involve the need to have a lot of time together in order to get the dirty deed done.
The main concern, in fact, comes from relationships where one person has a significantly lower sex drive than the other. It is right to be concerned, however: it is not a reason to break up a relationship or consider something else. If everything else in your relationship is working perfectly and you are both happy with one another, there are a few things you can consider.
Teaching Yourself Restraint
A bit of patience and restraint is good for everyone. Those who have a high libido will need to accept that there will be times when they’re not able to have as much sex as they would like. After all, it is important to respect your partner’s wishes. Since you are both in a relationship together, there are specific needs that the two of you will need to fill.
This is why communicating about the issue is a good idea. The two of you can ensure that you are on the same page by discussing it regularly. The partner with the lower libido can perhaps take on specific roles which are not as demanding. In a relationship between gay men, for example, the person with the lower libido can offer to bottom or “service” the other partner.
For the partner with a high libido, we’re not just talking about a quick wank. You can learn to satisfy your own needs for sex up to a point. Get a couple of sex toys and try out a whole range of different sexual techniques. You will be surprised to find that there are plenty of things you can do on your own – if you have the right information and the right imagination!
For men, blow-up dolls can be fantastic especially if you just want to fuck. There are also fleshlights which are great for simulating vaginas and you can use them in a range of different positions. The point here is to really get into masturbation and enjoy yourself on a purely sexual level: you can be as wild as you want!08
This is an option that will only work for some people, primarily because jealousy is a huge issue for a lot of people. If your partner with the low libido is fine with it, however, the partner who needs more sex can look for casual sex partners for when their partner is not available or in the mood. This is something that you should really talk about, however, so make sure to tread this area very carefully before you commit to it.