Sex versus Intimacy January 4, 2018 – Posted in: Industry Telegram
Sex Versus Intimacy
Sex is one of those topics that everyone thinks about, whether or not they talk about it. You can see the evidence of it in the sex toy and online dating industries: sex sells, it always has and it always will. However, there is a lot of focus on the physical aspects of sex. The emotional component tends to be something that very few people are able to talk about and when they do, it tends to be a bit of a tough subject. This is why we have decided to address the topic here.
Intimacy is often the reason a lot of people have sex. Yes, there are many times when you are simply horny and just want to get a bit of action. In this regard, anyone with the right set of genitals and a good drive is going to do it. However, when you want intimacy, things need to be a little different. You need someone that you are attracted to, someone that you like spending time with. A person that you want to cuddle with after you’ve done the deed, and have breakfast with in the morning. Sex with such a person is usually just seen as an extension of being close.
Sex without Intimacy
Some people equate sex with intimacy, but this isn’t necessarily the case. Some people simply see sex as an extension of masturbation: getting your rocks off with someone that you are attracted to. You can have sex with a complete and utter stranger, have a really good time and then go your separate ways. You don’t necessarily have to be emotionally close to one another. You can connect with one another on a sexual level, enjoy it and have nothing more. In this regard, it is just about the pleasurable part of things which is why a lot of people enjoy it.
Intimacy, on the other hand, does not necessarily have to involve sex. Kissing, cuddling, being naked together and just enjoying one another’s company is the core of intimacy. It is about knowing the ins and outs of a person. For those who enjoy sex with someone they love, sex is just another way of expressing the desire for intimacy.
Intimacy without Sex in a Relationship
Sex, shockingly, is only a small part of a relationship. A relationship is about the interaction of two people. Romantic relationships must have intimacy: they do not necessarily have to have sex. If you and your partner cuddle and are intimate a lot but tend to have fewer sex sessions, it’s nothing to worry about. If you are both happy with the situation then it is exactly what you need. If anything, you can consider sex a vehicle for intimacy.
Overall, it is up to you to decide on your relationship(s) and how you view sex itself. You alone can decide what you are comfortable with. You can then discuss it with your partner and decide what compromise you are both willing to reach. This level of communication is the most important aspect.