Watching Porn Together February 5, 2016 – Posted in: Relationships, Sex Advice
Watching porn together is an experience that is sure to change things up in any intimate relationship. Whether that change is positive or negative won’t be known until you’ve given it a try. In extreme cases, the mere mention of watching porn is a deal-breaker. Some people are just anti-porn, and they can’t be convinced to come to the dark side. If you’re both already avid viewers in your personal time, joining forces won’t jeopardise anything you have together. In fact, you both might learn a thing (or two).
How to Start Watching Porn Together
Putting it all out there
To start things off, you will have to have the conversation. You can straight out ask them if they’d like to watch porn with you, or you can be really subtle and casual about it. Put it on the table as something you’d like to try. If it’s the least effort and easiest to fulfil on your list of ‘wants,’ you’re more likely to see it achieved. Unfortunately, a combined lack of tact on your part and insecurity on theirs might make your suggestion feel disrespectful or offensive. Obviously, it’s not intended that way, so try your best to not pressure them into it. Aim for a balance of “It’d be hot as hell if we tried this,” and “I wouldn’t give it a second thought if we never mentioned it again.”
Start in the shallow end
In an ideal scenario, you’ll already be familiar with each other’s sexual likes, dislikes and kinks. Try to avoid jumping straight into scenes of hardcore triple (or quadruple) penetration. While there’s no problem with enjoying it, this is a shared experience, so if you’re into anything extreme you should ease your partner into it. In saying that, if you’ve already discussed or participated in sexual adventures together then by all means gangbang away. Introducing a foreign concept or fetish is as simple as saying “I’ve never shared this with anyone, but I like watching…” and finding a nice introductory clip that best showcases the thing you like. You don’t have to be interested in recreating the scene or experiencing the act yourself, which is something to let your partner know.
If you don’t know where to start, or if you’re both a little shy, go for something really vanilla and work your way up. Start with a one-on-one scene. As it plays out, talk about what you’re watching and move toward where you’d like to see it go. A bit of commentary will act as dirty talk and go a long way to enhancing the mood. Ask questions; find out how your partner is responding to the action.
Sharing your fantasies and private desires with someone should be done in a safe, judgement-free zone. Don’t be embarrassed about what you get off on. As long as it’s performed by consenting adults, get your perve on to anything you want, and don’t worry about it changing your lover’s opinion of you.
Don’t neglect each other
Just because there’s porn playing doesn’t mean your eyes should be fixed on the screen. Everything going to plan means you’re both so visually and aurally stimulated you start touching yourselves and each other. Then, the heightened level of intimacy becomes too much and you forget there was porn on to begin with. Also, being tangled up in porn won’t (or shouldn’t) take away from your usual style. You don’t have to try anything new or strange to keep up. What I’m saying is if you’re a whiz at getting your guy or girl off, stick with your tried and true method. The porn factor will inspire you – there’s no doubt about that – so your talent plus the scene on the screen will lead straight to euphoria.
Paying your partner special attention also helps them feel more comfortable and relaxed in a new situation. If you’re feeling hair-triggered, don’t rush through the foreplay and finish before the video does.
When done well, watching porn with a partner is incredibly hot and unlocks many doors to keeping your sex life interesting. Once you’ve opened the floodgates, being bonded by a shared love of dirty movies can be used even while you’re apart. Being honest with each other about your interests can pave the way for turning fantasy into reality, too. I can’t say that you have nothing to lose by trying to watch porn with someone because you very well might. The kind of person who would leave you over your porn preferences isn’t someone you’re compatible with, anyway. You don’t have to like the same thing, and that’s totally okay. You won’t know what you’re both secretly into until you try, though.
