Lights On or Off? December 18, 2017 – Posted in: Industry Telegram
There are a lot of options when it comes to the kind of environment that you want to have sex in. A lot of the time, it is down to timing and preference. Since sex tends to happen at night for a lot of people, it is quite common to do it in the dark. As a result, there are plenty of people who prefer to continue having sex in the dark. This is often for comfort reasons: people may feel slightly embarrassed about their bodies. They’ll, therefore, prefer to have sex with their partners in an environment that will cast them in a favorable light (or no light at all).
So… While the answer to “Lights on or off?” can easily be answered by what a person themselves prefers, it is still a good idea to look at the different aspects. There are many advantages and disadvantages and it all depends on what you want.
Lights Off – Why People Have Sex in the Dark
Some people believe that this has a lot to do with prudishness. While this is definitely the case, there are of course other reasons as well. Sometimes it just boils down to practicality: you and your partner settle into your bed for the night. You then start kissing, cuddling and touching each other. Depending on the mood you are both in, you start to get a little friskier and all the more intense. You then end up having full-on sex.
Others may simply prefer the coziness of the darkness surrounding them. This generally helps to promote a feeling of closeness and intimacy. Then there are those who are simply just a little embarrassed to be seen like that in the light. They don’t really want to have all their body parts showing – even to their partner. Sex in the dark is quite common among those who go out for drunken one night stands.
Lights On – The Benefits of Doing It in the Open
Of course, when we say “in the open” we don’t actually mean outside (although there are plenty of people who like doing it as well). We mean in the open with the lights on, with everything just hanging out there for everyone to see. While this is something that makes a lot of people cringe, there are also many who enjoy the pure exhibitionism of it. Of course, you’re generally not going to be having lots of people looking through the window but you will be looking at each other!
Ultimately, what you want to do depends on the coupling you are in. Some people really do enjoy doing it with the lights on or trying to actually see one another’s bodies. Others prefer to keep things wrapped up a little bit as this helps to promote a bit of sensory deprivation (which can also be very sexy). Ultimately, you just need to make sure that you speak to your partner about it. That way, the two of you can decide what’s best for you.