Everything You Need to Know About Group Sex and Swinging December 19, 2019 – Posted in: Sex Advice, Sexuality – Tags: group sex, swinging

Have you been considering either group sex or swinging but you aren’t sure where to start? Have no fear! Today we’re going to take you through everything you need to know about both so that you can decide whether either one is right for you and take the next steps! And remember, always practice safe sex!

Group Sex 

Group sex, sometimes called orgies, are often on the top of many people’s fantasy lists. But the reality of how to have group sex can sometimes seem overwhelming and honestly? It seems like it makes it less fun. Breaking it down into small, manageable bites can keep it fun and sexy without getting you into a situation you can’t handle.

Tip #1 : Find a reputable party

The first and most important key to successful group sex is making sure to find a trustworthy party. If you have any friends who are into group sex, ask them for personal recommendations. If you’re going it alone, email the organizers ahead of time to ask for any rules. A reputable organizer will answer any questions quickly without irritation. Group sex parties will also ask for everyone’s sexually transmitted infection (or STI) status prior to meeting up.

Tip #2 : Ask for consent

Sometimes, it can be difficult to get started. This is where consent comes in. To break the ice, approach someone you are attracted to and ask for consent. Some people choose to start with just cuddling, which makes asking a little bit less intimidating. This doesn’t just go for starting out, it also goes for asking groups or couples that are already having sex. Don’t just invite yourself in, always ask for consent.

Tip #3 : Don’t be afraid to experiment

You’re already taking a huge leap, so why not keep experimenting? Part of the fun is learning more about what works and what doesn’t work for you. The sky really is the limit. Try solo sex while people watch, MM, MF, MMF, MFF, etc! You can even take a break to just grab a drink and watch for a little bit. Orgies are a great place to really learn about yourself.

Tip #4 : Ghost, if necessary

If you get overwhelmed, or even if you’re just done, don’t feel like you have to say goodbye to everyone. It’s absolutely ok to just ghost when you’re ready.

Swinging

Swinging involves a slightly different set of rules than group sex, as swinging generally involves already established couples.

Tip #1 : Talk with your partner and set ground rules

Communication. Communication. Communication. Before even seriously considering swinging with your partner, talk about it. Talk out all of the details. Make sure you’re on the same page with how you’re feeling and what you’re both interested in. Once you’ve decided that you’re both ready to take the next step, set some ground rules. This should include how far you are allowed to go with other people (some couples choose to stop at foreplay, for instance) and if there are any absolute “no-go’s.”

You may also want to establish a safety word, in case things go in a direction you’re not comfortable with.

Tip #2 : Decide on the setting

There really are two ways to go about swinging – either with a couple you know or by finding someone specifically for the purpose of swinging.

If you don’t want to approach anyone you know in real life, the internet provides a great opportunity to be able to meet and network with couples without any real risk. However, it is strongly recommended that you meet up with them before getting naked to make sure you click.

Then decide where you’re planning on having sex – your place, their place, or a neutral area like a hotel. When meeting up with people you’ve met on the internet, it’s usually a better idea to meet in a neutral place for safety.

Tip #3 : Plan a follow-up conversation

After you do the deed, plan to have a follow-up conversation with your partner about how you both felt about it. Actually going forward with it can make you feel unexpected things. It’s important to the health of your relationship to talk about all of them, especially prior to potentially doing it again. You may decide you don’t want to do it again, and that’s totally ok! Swinging isn’t for everyone, and if even one of the people in the couple isn’t into it, you shouldn’t do it.

So, whether you’re interested in group sex or swinging, make sure you know what you’re getting into. Open communication, especially about STI status, is essential to a healthy, happy, and satisfying sexual experience.