Dirty Talk: A Beginner’s Guide August 19, 2019 – Posted in: Sex Advice – Tags:

Losing your dirty talk virginity

There is nothing worse than sexy time with your partner or whoever they may be, where you find yourself in a situation; both of you there, horny as ever, and they tell you to start dirty talk. It can be really embarrassing if you freeze up and don’t know what to say. Sometimes a simple “I’m so wet” or “I’m so hard” will do, but it can be fun to make your sexual vocabulary a little broader than that.

There are many ways to dirty talk:

  • Texting/sexting
  • Telephone/message or audio chat
  • Video chat
  • In person
  • Via Email

Texting is probably the least awkward form of dirty talk. You have the advantage of being able to think about what you’re going to say. It’s not as confronting as being face to face with someone. Studies suggest that people are at their most confident behind a keyboard so it’s probably the easiest way to start. That being said, if you can look someone dead in the eye and say “I want you to fuck me” then good for you! Such confidence!

Talking the dirty talk

Dirty talk can turn into different scenarios of role play (if you’re bold enough), and why not? There’s no reason not to be. Some people are so naturally good at talking dirty. Potty mouth seems to come like breathing to them. Other people, as you might have experienced…not so much. Dirty talking can be a little awkward those first few times though. For example, “Am I supposed to say tits or boobs, cock or dick?”.

Just pretend you’re literally narrating a story that’s happening, describing each thing exactly as you would be doing it.

Adjectives are the way to go when you’re talking dirty.

How much better is…

 “He took his hard throbbing cock, rubbing it against her hot wet clit”.


 “He took his cock, rubbing it against her clit”.

See what I’m saying? Use those adjectives ladies and gents! You want their imagination to run wild when you’re talking, be descriptive as possible.

Try building the anticipation by telling them what you’re going to do, or what you want them to do to you. For example –

“I’m going to bend you over and spank you when I get home”.


 “When you walk through that door, your clothes are coming off and I’m going to devour you”.

Sounding confident can be a huge a turn-on. You are really only limited by your personal comfort zone. If you can step out of that space, then the sky is the limit! For more dirty talk ideas, check out these 85 phrases to turn him on.

How far is too far?

It is really all about how far you and your partner want to take the level of intensity. Watch profanity. Some women, in the right sexual scenario, love to be slapped and called “a dirty little slut” but be mindful that some women don’t. You don’t want to disrespect your partner by trampling their sexual boundaries.

Look, dirty talk isn’t always politically correct but asking what they like and don’t like doesn’t make sexy time any less sexy.  Being respectful of what your partner wants is really crucial in the bedroom when you are exploring. Everyone has different frames of reference and history.

Final Note: Just have (dirty) fun!

At the end of the day there’s no right or wrong way. The whole point of dirty talk is to make your sex life more enjoyable by turning it up a notch (or two). Be yourself and carpe diem my friends!

If you are looking for ways to learn some sexy phrases or games to play, head over to Me and Mrs Jones “Couples Kits” where there are a variety of dirty talking games.

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