How to Receive a Blowjob like a Gentleman February 16, 2016 – Posted in: Adult Industry News
Being a gentleman when you’re on the receiving end of a blowjob will earn you major points for the future. If your partner isn’t a huge fan of oral favours, treating them well can turn that around. Before you lie back and pretend it’s all about you, here are five ways you can become a better candidate for blowjobs.
How to Receive a Blowjob like a Gentleman
Be clean and fresh – maybe even trim
One of the major complaints from people who don’t enjoy performing oral sex is that their partner’s hygiene isn’t up to scratch. While this seems like a no-brainer, unfortunately keeping your crotch clean isn’t everyone’s priority. Although you may think you’re pretty fresh, poorly-aired nether regions sweat like nobody’s business, even in the colder months. It’s little effort (on your part) to give yourself a quick rinse. Long term, changing your underwear to something more breathable won’t hurt either. Keeping your pubic hair tamed is also a considerate move. You don’t have to go waxing it all off, but try trimming down to a polite length – short enough that it won’t get caught between your partner’s teeth like a piece of floss.
Don’t push their head down
This one should go without saying. It’s a sure-fire way to get you blacklisted by the blowjob fairies. Simply put, there’s a generous individual with your precious parts in their mouth – be respectful. Their mind, not to mention their mouth, throat and tongue – are sensitive to your movements. Pushing someone’s head down can be the end of everything. Not only will it piss them off right then and there, it can contribute to their dislike of anything oral. For you, the consequences can be as painful as getting bitten, or triggering their gag reflex and getting vomited on. Not worth it. Only engage in some head control if you’ve gotten their express consent prior to starting. Otherwise, while someone is going down on you, don’t be greedy.
Let them know how much you’re enjoying it
Moan, say words, smile – get vocal. Use your hands to run through their hair or touch their arms, whatever you can reach. Physical and verbal affirmations of pleasure are encouraging. Knowing that they’re doing the right things to you is beneficial; it makes your partner keener to repeat the performance at a later date. Don’t fake it, but react naturally to the sensations. You’ll both reap the rewards.
Return the favour
This is a tip that’s really for show, because you definitely already return the favour, right? Short of health issues that render oral sex impossible, get on down there. If their hygiene is lacking, let them know. If there’s a solution to your reluctance, work on solving it. Being on the receiving end of blowjobs without ever giving anything back doesn’t reflect well on you, and soon enough the well will dry up. The selfish lover that never ‘dines at the Y’ will eventually have no one to eat with, remember that. Establish a pattern of getting and then giving, and you’ll never go without.
Sing their praises
When it’s all done and dusted, consistently remind your partner how much you enjoy their effort. Boosting their confidence encourages them to try it again; they feel sexy and empowered. Don’t compliment them in a sleazy way to get a blowjob when you want it. Use sexting or dirty talk during foreplay as an opportunity to tell them they give amazing head. Tell them over dinner, or whenever the thought crosses your mind. As long as you’re sincere, they’ll be tickled pink to hear it.
It’s easy to be a decent person while you’re enjoying oral pleasure. Not only that, it bodes well for the longevity of your blowjob-receiving life. Don’t be forceful, don’t be shy in expressing yourself, always pay it forward and be grateful. Even though your partner isn’t being physically pleasured, the act of giving should be satisfying for both of you.
